It gives me great pleasure to welcome Sarah Ballard, experienced doula and postnatal group facilitator who has written a guest blog post about what to do in your postnatal period during these challenging times!
Your new baby
As anybody knows, having a baby is a challenging yet delicious time, made even harder by these intense circumstances we find ourselves in; hardly the maternity leave I’m sure you had planned, imagined or hoped for.
You’re now stuck at home, possibly with only your partner who is in this journey with you, (probably trying to juggle working from home too) rather than the wealth of well-meaning family and friends popping in to support you. I’m sure some of you may also be relieved not to have your mother-in-law popping over all too often to tell you how she did it and what a perfect baby her precious son was! So reaching out and finding a new community can be more important than ever.
Finding your tribe
If you were able to head out and about, one of the first places many mums head to is baby massage classes, and luckily during the current crisis these are still available as online versions. This is still a place to meet and connect with other mums in the same situation as you wondering what the heck has just happened. Through weekly zoom classes together, whats app and facebook groups you can still find your new network of people to connect with, sharing a joint experience which is unlike the experience of most mothers who have gone before you.
The enormous benefits of a support network are only enhanced by learning a new skill together, like baby massage and baby yoga.
The importance of touch
When babies enter this world their primary love language is touch, to enable them to thrive, feed, feel loved and connected. The skin to skin contact during baby massage releases oxytocin enabling you to bond and deepen your love. Learning about love languages is fascinating in all our relationships, not just as parents (you can read more here https://www.5lovelanguages.com/). The rhythmic and calming repetitive strokes of baby massage helps to reset you as a parent in a way similar to mindfulness; to be able to sit and be present in the moment with your baby and spend intentional time together.
Baby massage and baby yoga are very baby centred classes enabling you to look after your baby’s needs first, whilst learning a new skill, singing songs together and getting to know other parents. My online classes are run weekly and booking is at http://www.nurturingbeginnings.co.uk/baby-groups/online-virtual-baby-classes/. These will help you find your tribe in these strange and unique times and deepen the connection with your baby.
And if you feel you could do with some postnatal support you can find it here – also in a slightly different form to the norm but still full of the same doula loveliness and wisdom.
Stay safe and well and enjoy your babymoons xxxx